Today, I want to talk about two little words. "It's. Complicated." People who list their facebook relationship status as "It's complicated" confuse me.
First of all, it's complicated can mean a lot of things. "We're dating, and it's kind of serious, but it's kind of not." "He thinks we're together, but so does he. Oh, and him too." "I love you, but I'm just not in love with you, as a matter of fact, I think the entire idea of dating is just some part of the archaic, consumerist, misogynist patriarchy designed to keep women in their place and reinforce rigid gender stereotypes." "Love is too mainstream."
Whatever. Point is, people in healthy relationships do not describe their situations as "It's complicated." And I don't mean that somebody asks how your relationship is going, and then you respond that "It's complicated." Because sometimes it is. But why would someone choose to broadcast to the world that their situation with someone is currently so screwed up that the only way to describe it is "It's complicated?"
Realistically, I think it's because people are so afraid to appear single that they would rather admit that they can't figure their crap out than not have everyone in the world know that they're hooking up with someone.
I'm personally the kind of person that thinks that, if the only way you can feel like there's any legitimacy to your relationship is publishing it on facebook, there are deeper issues at hand than "It's complicated" can sum up.
It's NOT that complicated,
Rachel Leigh
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